By Timothy Sparks
While some may say that God did not give us divorce, there are three exceptions they may allow:
(1) An exception to Jesus’ ban on divorce;
(2) An exception that would favorably authorize hard-heartedness, permitting divorce; and
(3) An exception that would favorably authorize withholding forgiveness, permitting divorce.
Jesus says that it is not for humans to divide what God joined (Mt. 19:6; Mk. 10:9), yet divorce is an attempt to divide what God united. God did not give divorce in the beginning (Mt. 19:8), and Jesus bans it (Mt. 19:4-6). God gives no exception to Jesus’ ban on divorce.
God hates divorce, which arose from husbands’ hatred against their wives (Mal. 2:16). Jesus makes clear that divorce originated out of men’s hard-heartedness (Mk. 10:5). God gives no exception to Jesus’ teaching that would favorably authorize hard-heartedness.
Hard-heartedness is the opposite of forgiveness, and Jesus commands unlimited forgiveness (Mt. 18:21-22). God will not forgive unforgiving individuals. Forgive or forfeit forgiveness (Mt. 18:35). God gives no exception to Jesus’ teaching on forgiveness.
Divorce was instituted by men and for men. Why would we want to hold onto a human institution God did not give us?
See also the discussion of forgiveness (Lk. 17:3-4) in https://timothysparks.files.wordpress.com/2018/02/negative-inference-fallacy.pdf, pages (slides) 9-10 of the pdf.